Marriage is different

Before we were engaged, we did not do any of the following:

• Hold weekly project management meetings (See photo; There's no "I" but plenty of "me" in "team.")
  
• Discuss decorations for more than twenty minutes at a time
  
• Seek an august description of love, commitment, and joy beyond those that served us today
• Dance
  
• Reflect on our taste in music (Two parallel lines drawn to infinity never intersect)
• Manage vendors (Or allow ourselves to be managed)
  
• Ask people for favors that under-use their abilities (Small but important tasks depend on people you trust)

Along the way, the goals of marriage come to light. TWIL may have others, but here are some of ours:

• Generosity - to welcome and cheer
  
• Entertainment - to delight and engage
  
• Moment (See definition 4) - to pay attention to and express the richness of today's ordinary doings
  
• Artfulness - to shape and form what you've got - time, choices, effort - in hopes of enriching those ordinary doings
  
• Endeavor - to take on new challenges, not knowing for certain where they lead
  

When I say these are our goals, I mean that these what we offer one another without really thinking about it, what we respect about each other and fell in love with, and what we have aimed to do through the wedding plans. Let us know what you see.